A good friend of mine is a motorcyclist and he belongs to a biker group that escorts the families of Canada’s fallen soldiers from Trenton to Toronto on the Highway of Heroes. While I write this our country has lost 146 soldiers in Afghanistan and their sacrifice for our country is incalculable. Last year I happened to be driving on the Gardiner Expressway on the way to the store and realized that a soldier’s body was being driven from the coroner’s office to St. Catharines and was able to find a spot on the highway to pull over, get out of my car and join others on the highway in a silent show of respect. I had not had occasion to do this before but felt an obligation to do so when I realized what was happening and hope that my small gesture was appreciated by the family as they passed. Frankly, it made me feel good that I could say ‘thank you’ for this soldier’s sacrifice – but I was sorry I had a reason to do so.
This past weekend the tables were turned. I had the honour of driving my girlfriend and her mother to a father and husband’s funeral on Saturday. This was the first time I had participated in a funeral procession and something happened during our drive through the streets of London Ontario that I want to pass along because the effect it had was profoundly heartfelt and appreciated.
On the drive from the funeral home to the church the funeral director asked that I drive immediately behind the hearse. We took as many secondary roads as possible as we headed towards the church so as to not tie up traffic but we eventually had to drive on a few major roads through the city of London on our way. To my pleasant surprise, as we pulled out from the funeral home the only car on the road pulled aside as we passed in a show of respect that caught my eye and brought a smile to my face and to the faces of my girlfriend and her mother. I think the comment from the widow through her tears was, “Isn’t that a nice thing to see on such a tough day.”
As we continued on our journey scores of other cars pulled aside in a similar show of respect that left the deceased’s wife and daughter so thankful that I can not put it into words. This small gesture by complete strangers who stopped at the side of the road for a few moments meant more than they knew and it was greatly appreciated by the family of the deceased.
I live in Mississauga and am embarrassed to admit that in the past I have on occasion not pulled over because I didn’t know the deceased and/or sometimes thought my schedule was ‘too important’ to permit me to be late (when I become that self-important I know I need a vacation). Well, I was reminded on the weekend that there is always time to show respect and a small gesture like pulling over to let a grieving family pass means more to the family and friends of the deceased than you realize.
To those citizens of London who were thoughtful enough to pull over when they saw our procession – thank you. It was a reminder to me to be similarly considerate when driving because I now understand how that small gesture means so much to a grieving family and it is truly appreciated…





